False standards?

 Today when I got up, I went to Instagram. Why was I on Instagram early in the morning, there is no answer. 

There is this post by a stupid motivational speaker. Someone put a ban on such bullshit stories they post in the name of family values and all those false emotions.

The post talks about a father, mother, and the girl getting ready for work and school. Father has a presentation and leaves home early without breakfast. The daughter is upset that he went without kissing her and saying bye even though her mother is at home to say bye, feed her breakfast and drop her off at school. Apparently, the girl wants both. 

As the girl and mom wait at the bus stand, suddenly they see Father coming back, stop his car and hug the girl kiss her goodbye, and then leave. 

The girl is super happy to see the father and goes on her bus.

Then there some stupid lines like "No one will remember if you were early or late at work or missed any meeting but your daughter will remember the time" 

While I understand that we have to be available for our family and they definitely come first but we have to also understand that this is a daily balancing act and needs to be adjusted as per the situation of that particular time. 

It's very upsetting to see such one-sided false messages. My father was in the Army and there were years when he was posted alone at a place where family can not join. We did not even have telephones. We could only write letters and receive letters like once or twice a month. Now imagine if we talk about the father being missing from the kid's school life. 

Or imagine a surgeon or even your daily help. If they started this work-life balance, our lives would be a huge mess. So let's not over-glorify such stories and look at the realities of life. 

When parents are on their way up the ladder working for the family's comfortable life and future or even if they are working for themselves because they have found something that truly motivates them. 

So lets do the balancing act and keep all those stupid stories out of our lives.






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